How to Split Costs Fairly on a Hen Weekend

Let's talk about the most awkward part of planning a hen party: money. Getting the finances right can make or break the weekend, but with clear communication and fair systems, it doesn't have to be stressful. This guide complements our complete planning checklist.

Set a Budget Early

Before booking anything, poll the group. What's everyone comfortable spending? Be honest about the fact that hen parties aren't cheap, but also make sure no one feels pressured to go beyond their means. Check our booking guide to understand typical costs.

The Bride Shouldn't Pay

This is standard practice. Split the bride's share between the other guests. If there are 10 people total, each guest pays 1/9th of the total costs, not 1/10th.

Break Down the Costs

Be transparent from the start:

• Accommodation - Usually the biggest expense. Our luxury houses range from £2,000-£5,000 for a weekend.
• Activities - Cocktail classes, life drawing, etc.
• Group meals - Dinner, brunch, or a private chef
• Decorations and supplies - Balloons, sashes, games
• Shared transport - If hiring a minibuss

Use Money Management Apps

Apps like Splitwise or Monzo's group tabs make tracking expenses much easier. Everyone can see what's been paid and what they owe in real time.

Deposit Strategy

Collect deposits early – ideally 50% when booking and the balance 6-8 weeks before the event. This gives people time to budget rather than hitting them with a large bill all at once. Learn more about our payment terms and deposit schedule.

Optional Add-Ons

Not everyone will want (or can afford) every activity. Make some things optional. For example:

• Core package: accommodation, Saturday dinner, one activity
• Optional extras: spa treatments, additional experiences, upgraded rooms

The Organiser's Expenses

If you're doing the organising, it's fair to have your expenses covered (taxi to collect supplies, printing costs, etc.). Just be upfront about this.

What If Someone Can't Afford It?

This is tricky. Options include:

• Adjust the overall budget down
• Let them opt out of certain activities without judgement
• If the bride wants that person there regardless, she might choose to subsidise them

Cancellation Scenario

Have a plan for what happens if someone drops out. Most house bookings have strict cancellation policies, so the group needs to know whether they'll absorb that person's share or if deposits are non-refundable.

Final Payment Deadline

Set a clear deadline for final payments – at least a month before the trip. This gives you time to chase any stragglers without last-minute stress.

The key to avoiding money drama is overcommunication. Send clear breakdowns, set expectations early, and make sure everyone knows what they're signing up for before they commit. For a complete overview of planning timelines and costs, see our hen party planning checklist. Ready to start planning? Get in touch with our team for a personalised quote.